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A Strategy for Dealing with Difficult People

Now, we’ve all had it: the meeting with someone who is difficult. That meeting you just don’t want to go to, whether it’s a confrontation with your boss, or with a difficult customer/client, or, if you’re a teacher, like me, a difficult parent. (Or, if you’re a parent, a difficult teacher)

Yesterday, I saw a picture that said something along the lines of “I put on my big girl panties, my bitch bra, my shit kicker boots…” and I thought, yes! I do that.

But that’s not the only thing I put on. No, seriously, I have a whole, “You’re a pain in the ass, so I’m going to put on my don’t mess with me wardrobe.”

A long time ago, I read some article that said that red is a very powerful color. Dominant. So, if I want to feel dominant, I wear red. Inevitably.

Red sweater, black pants, and really tall boots. I’m tall anyway, but I have one pair of boots that make me over six feet tall. My friends can spot a difficult meeting when the Amazon in red–with the bright red lipstick (not dark red, bright red) walks in. They know it’s really difficult if they see me reapply said red lips.

The other day, I walked in to work. An out of state gentleman from a private firm was supposed to be observing one of my classrooms. Being honest, I felt totally relaxed about it–after all, as speech, not very many people know what I actually do, and he wasn’t looking at me. Sure, I was there doing therapy, but I didn’t feel like I was the one under scrutiny.

But subconsciously, I must have felt it.

Because it wasn’t until I was escorting him down the hall that I realized, A) I’m really freakishly tall and B) Ohhhh, I’m wearing my power colors. And the power shoes. Which put me a good two inches taller than he was.

Sure, I sacrifice the comfort of my feet, but it works.

What about you? What do you do to feel confident? (Or, are you drawn that way? If so, lucky you!)